Message from An Autism Mom: Never Give Up | Christa Dowdy Law | LifeStyle Blogger | Lexington, Kentucky

I never know what will inspire a blog post. This was inspired by a Facebook Memory. 6 years ago I posted a video of me and Cade, sometime in the wee hours of the night, only showing the light from the living room window coming from a street light, and all you could hear was his little voice. My 4 year old autistic sweet boy singing “if you’re happy and you know it” but there were no words. Only the “sounds” of the words. Sure I could understand him. He was my son. When I played it for my co-worker she gave me a blank grin until I told her what the song was and then, yes! Of course she recognized the tune! And 6 years later he can sing every word to every Johnny Cash song, in pitch.

How far we have come. It’s reminders like these that fill my heart with pride and contentment. That maybe everything is coming together. That all of the work and effort and sleepless nights and worry and baby steps were all worth it. And every one saying “he will get there, don’t worry, everyone is different… they were right. Now he’s in fifth grade.  Now he has friends and peers that understand him and want to help him and play with him and be WITH him.

I’ve grown too though, as a mom. As a person. I’ve had to. When handed the diagnosis, I had no idea what I’d be dealing with. Meltdowns and frustration in the beginning. A lot of behavior issues. Therapy and questions. So many questions. But I have learned so much and so many people have helped me. Guided me. Let me cry on their shoulders. LITERALLY.

The biggest things with my son I’ve learned: To talk to him. His output might be jumbled sometimes. He might not be able to always express himself appropriately but he has always seemed to be able to understand if I could get his undivided attention. And I know that not all kids are the same but all kids with autism are in there. There is some way to connect. And whether you know they are listening to you or not, talk to them. For Cade, I always talked to him like he was an adult. Like he was my best friend. And he always was. He was my side kick. My little buddy. Once I realized that “transitions” were difficult for him, I recognized that he simply needed to understand what was going to happen. He needed an explanation. Sometimes it had to be said several times. Sometimes in different ways. But that was key!

Something else I really grasped onto early and tried to remember daily is the emotional side of my kiddo and just how MY emotions affect him. When I’m sad or upset, he picks up on that so quickly. And being a single mom, those emotions come. It’s just part of life. So I had to start to focus on myself, to make myself better so that I could make HIM better. Because as I developed my own happiness, I saw his happiness bloom. Now I focus on positivity and it has transformed not only my life, but our home, Cade’s interaction with me and hopefully his happiness.

I would be lying if I told you I’ve never gone to bed crying, with worry that this day would never come, that I could never see him at THIS point. And I would be lying if I told you that I don’t still worry about his future and if his progress will continue or how his future will play out. All I can tell you is that I don’t give up and neither should you! Because our kiddos are special and every day is a new day and every day could hold a miracle! Never give up on what you are doing. Never give up on the strength of your child and the strength of your own.

Keto Cauliflower Soup | Christa Dowdy Law | LifeStyle Blogger | Keto Momma| Lexington Ky

I never expected to be a food blogger but I do love cooking and I’ve started this Keto journey so I am excited to share the recipes that I am trying, and enjoying! This weekend I was craving some comfort food. As you can imagine, a nice bowl of potato soup is no longer an option for me, however I can substitute foods I can have for foods I can’t and cauliflower makes an excellent substitution for starchy foods I crave

It turned out AMAZING… I made this in my InstaPot but I’m sure you can put this on the stovetop just as easily!INGREDIENTS:

  1. onion, chopped
  2. 2 T butter or olive oil
  3. 1 large head of cauliflower, leaves and stem removed and the rest coarsely chopped (About 7-8 cups chopped cauliflower. You can use the core.)
  4. 3 cups chicken stock or water
  5. 1 tsp. garlic powder
  6. 1 tsp. Sea salt
  7. 4 oz. cream cheese, cut into cubes
  8. 1 cup grated sharp cheddar
  9. 1/2 cup half and half or whipping cream

TOPPING INGREDIENT OPTIONS:

  • extra grated cheddar
  • sour cream
  • 8-10 strips bacon, cooked crisp and crumbled
  • thinly sliced green onions
  • Shrimp

DIRECTIONS:

Peel the onion and chop into pieces. Remove the leaves from the cauliflower and chop into pieces (you can use the core)

Add the chicken stock (or water), onion, chopped cauliflower, garlic and salt to the InstaPot. Lock the lid, use the MANUAL setting and cook on for 10 minutes. Quick release the pressure when it’s finished cooking.

While the InstaPot is cooking, prepare the cream cheese and grate the cheddar. Also cook the bacon (I cook mine in coconut oil for added fat until crisp) or use pre-cooked bacon if you’re in a hurry.

Use an immersion blender or food processor to puree the soup. I personally used an immersion blender to puree the soup in the InstaPot cooker. If the soup is too thick, add more stock. If it seems too thin, let it simmer (leave the cooker on warm) until the liquid reduces.

Add grated cheese and cream cheese cubes and stir until melted. Add half and half, heat through. Season to taste.

Serve hot with your choice of toppings!

Here’s the Keto Nutritional values for those of you tracking your macros!

I hope you will give it a try and leave me a comment!! Let me know what you think!!

Back to School: Making A Great 1st Impression | Christa Dowdy Law | Beauty Blogger | LimeLife by Alcone | Lexington Ky

It’s that time! Back to school time! Everyone is scurrying for school supplies and new clothes and hair cuts! But what about makeup and skincare?

Teen years are the hardest for so many reasons!! Especially for girls (trust me, I was one!) The hormones, boys, making new friends, acne, eating disorders, depression, bullying, social media… so many issues face teens today. So many more then when I was a teen. So let’s make at least ONE area of her life perfectly PERFECT.

Let’s give her great skin and a great face of makeup!

First of all, we need great skin! I would have given anything to have had LimeLife in highschool. The products I used were so harsh my eyes would literally swell out of my head. And it’s as simple as this:

🌱The Fresh Start collection allows you to choose a face wash and moisturizer. For $44 you can get the BEST cleanser and moisturizer for your skin type. Choose from Dream Clean (oily or acne prone skin – most teens) or Quench Cleanse (normal to dry skin). And then your moisturizer, Skin Therapy and Calm Balm. I almost always recommend Skin Therapy as it is practically the most PERFECT moisturizer for every skin type.

🌱The Skin Confidence Collection allows you to choose a face wash, moisturizer and a mask of your choice for $82. So its basically the same as the Fresh Start Collection except you’re adding a mask – either the Mask of Zen or the Skin Polish. Both are fantastic for acne prone skin but again, depending on what type of skin you have. So your customization is endless!!!And then makeup!! You can’t go wrong with The Teen Collection! Not just for teens but a perfect place to start for anyone!!For $136, This collection includes your choice of

•one Botanical Foundation (I will color match her to her perfect shade)

•two Complete Concealers (one for concealing and one for highlighting!)

•one Perfect Blush, Bronzer or Pressed Powder

•two Perfect Eyeshadows

•one Signature Jeweled Lip Gloss (with built in mirror)

(I recommend adding perfect mascara of course! For $20 you can’t go wrong!)

The Teen Collection really is our most affordable “starter” collection for ANYONE (even adults!) wanting a little bit of everything LimeLife but this will give your teenager’s school year a fresh start!!